Kindly Uncle or Loving Father (Father Complex Pt. 1)

By Ife J. Ibitayo

“I like Jesus, but I don’t like the God of the Old Testament. He’s too angry.” I’ve had this conversation with many of my non-Christian friends. They gravitate toward the humility and gentleness of the Christ. But they shy away from the wrath and fury of the Father. But I believe these are twin facets of the same coin engraved in love.

One of the most memorable moments of my childhood was when my little brother slapped my mom. My father was standing right next to her. And I still remember the terror in my little brother’s eyes as he dashed into our game room and slammed the door. My father stomped after him. And my older brother and I weren’t sure if he was going to survive the night! Of course, the youngster survived to rebel another day. But because of that discipline he never laid a hand on our mother again. Now my father’s righteous anger demonstrated two things: first, his care for his wife; second, his care for his son.

The Justice of Love

My father loves my mom as he loves himself (Ephesians 5:28), so love compelled him to defend his wife when she was so viscerally disrespected. In like manner, God loves us all as His children, and He hates to see us mistreated. In the book of Isaiah, God says, “Woe to those who make unjust laws, to those who issue oppressive decrees, to deprive the poor of their rights and withhold justice from the oppressed of My people, making widows their prey and robbing the fatherless. What will you do on the day of reckoning, when disaster comes from afar” (Isaiah 10:1-3)? When God witnesses injustice, He responds with righteous indignation, just as we should.

When I saw a police officer kneeling on George Floyd’s neck, I was furious, and I yearned for the justice that my hands were incapable of delivering. But because God is all-powerful and all-loving, that same anger pushes Him to bow down the heavens and act on behalf of those who’ve been wronged (Psalm 18:6-9).

The Discipline of Love

Secondly, my father loved my little brother too much to allow him to continue down the rebellious path he’d taken. Even Dr. Benjamin Spock, one of the most influential 20th century voices against corporal punishment, still knew that discipline was necessary. Whether through words or deeds, a loving parent must communicate their love by disciplining their children, so how much more our heavenly Father?

The author of the book of Hebrews said, “For our earthly fathers disciplined us for a few years, doing the best they knew how. But God’s discipline is always good for us, so that we might share in his holiness. No discipline is enjoyable while it is happening—it’s painful! But afterward there will be a peaceful harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way (Hebrews 12:10-11).”

Therefore, when we as individuals, churches, or nations suffers the consequences of our wicked actions, this is not a sign that God doesn’t care for us any longer. Rather, it shows that He cares too much to allow us to keep going astray. As famous writer C.S. Lewis once said, “God shouts through our pain.” And sometimes that pain is the only restraint between us and death.

Conclusion

God so loved the world that He gave His only Son to us (John 3:16). But He also loves us so much that He doesn’t leave us to our own devices. He defends the needy, He disciplines the wayward, and He destroys the wicked. Without this aspect of God’s character, He’ll only be our kindly but distant Uncle rather than our present and loving Father.

“My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline, and do not resent his rebuke because the Lord disciplines those he loves as a father the son he delights in.”

(Proverbs 3:11-12)

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Like Father, Like Son (Power of Legacy Part 1)

By Ife J. Ibitayo

With the United States’ election saga nearing its climactic close, now is an especially relevant time to consider the power of legacy. There were many powerful leaders in the Bible from staff-wielding Moses to fish-catching Peter. They came from different walks of life, possessed differing levels of education, and leveraged distinct leadership styles. But they all shared one thing in common, they all left behind a legacy.

The Vision

King David was a truly epic king, beloved by his followers and the LORD alike. He founded the Israelite empire, established true worship to the LORD, and yearned to build God a beautiful temple in Jerusalem. But God would not let him. God told King David, “‘“You did well to have it in your heart to build a temple for My Name. Nevertheless, you are not the one to build the temple, but your son, your own flesh and blood—he is the one who will build the temple for My Name”’” (1 Kings 8:18-19 NIV). This son was King Solomon.

God thinks big. Often times, He will lay visions on our hearts that go beyond our capabilities and even our lifetimes. However, these visions will never be realized unless we convince other people to buy into them. King David succeeded in implanting his vision in his son before he passed away.

Implanting the Vision

His first and most important step in this process was passing on His love of the LORD to his son. The book of 1 Kings records that “Solomon loved the LORD and followed all the decrees of his father, David” (1 Kings 3:3a NLT). True imitation begins not with the hands but the heart. If our successors don’t have the same heart we have, they will ultimately take a different path, or they’ll follow in our footsteps for all the wrong reasons.

Enabling the Vision

King David’s second step was giving his son a thorough recipe for success. He gave Solomon the full extent of the revelation God had given him concerning the temple (1 Chronicles 28:11-19). And he gave his son all the manpower and supplies he could muster (1 Chronicles 22:1-5, 28:21). He did everything possible to ensure his son’s success in fulfilling the vision.

Articulating the Vision

Lastly, King David gave Solomon a clear articulation of the vision on his heart. King David told his son, “‘As for you, my son Solomon, know the God of your father, and serve Him with a loyal heart and with a willing mind; for the Lord searches all hearts and understands all the intent of the thoughts. If you seek Him, He will be found by you; but if you forsake Him, He will cast you off forever. Consider now, for the Lord has chosen you to build a house for the sanctuary; be strong, and do it’” (1 Chronicles 28:9-10 NKJV).

King David succinctly expressed the vision, laid out the blessing that awaited his son if he succeeded, and expressed the consequences if he did not. These words must have stayed with King Solomon all the years of his life and spurred him on as he completed one of the greatest wonders of the ancient world.

Conclusion

King Solomon’s success began with his father’s passion. King David’s legacy lived on because the story of his life was bejeweled with love for the LORD. Here was a man who sang (Psalm 7, 8, 23), danced (2 Samuel 6:14), and fought for the LORD (1 Samuel 17:45-47). King Solomon did not finish his greatest life’s work in spite of his father but because of him. 

“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”

(Proverbs 22:6 ESV)